If you’ve been red flagged as being far down the male status totem pole, then women will have little interest in you as a mate, and the more beautiful the female (high status for her) the more this is likely to be true.  So guys who try real hard to please and smother women with their promises of ridiculous love and devotion are seen as meek and therefore undesirable.  Fat chicks.  They’re trying to compensate for not having any power or authority in life, and it’s pathetically obvious.  Get it?

Don’t be a “nice” guy.  I know... you can’t help it. 

Anyway, you’re telling me that some bad-boy jackass who mistreats women is actually preferable to Mr. Nice Guy?  In a sense, the jerk’s status is often no better than the nice guy.  That’s why he’s a jerk... i.e., because he’s a low life who’s never really accomplished anything, is marginally educated, probably works some low class job, etc. But it can take a woman longer to discover this because his tough guy persona is a more acceptable psychological mask to her than the niceness cover-up.  At least the jerk can wield the power of physical intimidation now and then.  Some men are scared of him (probably all the nice guy pussies) and this tends to brandish some fake status, albeit of a very savage sort.  (Threats don’t get you very far in the modern world, money does.) Any female who is attracted to the jerk eventually finds this out.

But look at how long and difficult a process it is for her to disengage with this guy. This only goes to show how -- once properly seduced by having her most basic mating instincts switched on -- a woman can remain thoroughly captivated by a man’s aura, even one that doesn’t serve her true interests.  It remains so even after it’s long since become obvious to everyone else around her (including you, her good gossip buddy) that he’s using her and playing her for the complete fool.

Sad, very sad.  But also very commonplace as you well know, I’m sure.