But wait a minute, how could a woman not have some romantic feelings for a guy who only wants to love her, worship the ground she walks on, drink her bathwater and generally make her every wish come true?

Two reasons... first the obvious: undeserving adoration gives people the creeps. It’s a sign of mental instability that involves deep issues of control, most likely forged in the crucible of a lousy childhood.  Hey, wanna know a secret?... Nice guys aren’t really all that nice.  It’s a front.  In reality, they’re passive-aggressive controllers.  They’ve learned how to use “niceness” as a manipulative weapon to regulate the actions and responses of people around them. Their goal is the inflation of their own ego at the expense of others. In doing so, the nice guy avoids intimacy and any true emotional involvement because his actions involve the subtle transfer of shame to the target of his fake generosity, often in a subliminally hostile fashion.  He tends to inhibit the emotional growth of both himself and his partner because no one can ever get any honest feedback of their actions from him... everything always gets absorbed into his smothering, unrealistic, ‘nice’ behaviour. No one can get angry at him without feeling guilty of course, another powerful weapon of control in his toolbag.

That was the quick psychoanalysis of the situation -- something we’ll dig into in far greater depth.  But for now it’s critically important to understand the second reason why women dislike nice guys...

It’s a sign of low male status. And low status guys are nothing more than “fat chicks” to women.  How is this so?  Simple... any psychologist will tell you that people will attempt to control the actions of others around them to the degree that they themselves secretly feel that they are not in control.  In other words, controlling behaviour (which is all that “niceness” really is) sends a clear signal that a person has no genuine, recognized position of power or social/economic status in society. A person caught in this situation will often try to compensate for his social deficiency by trying to control others around him as much as he possibly can.  However, since he possesses little or no actual authority to exercise a controlling influence directly, he must resort to various forms of trickery or employ some kind of psychological coercion in order to get the job done.

Passive aggressive-behaviour (withholding the full expression of your effort or personality as a way to punish someone until they relent and let you have your way), flying into violent rages, and being aggressively “nice” are all attempts to exert control. This type of conduct stems from the deeply-rooted sense of insecurity that (for men) comes from having very little real authority... i.e., being dominated by other males in the world as opposed to being dominant over others.

Remember, it’s your status on this male pecking order totem that ultimately makes you attractive to women... or unattractive.