Just friends? Again? Aaaarrghhh! That's the most hated of all things to hear from any woman that you'd like to bang. When you finally get up the balls to show how you really feel about her she just wants to be your buddy. This seems to be the bane of many intelligent, but passive, men. In their eagerness to demonstrate how well they can connect with women and understand them, they end up "solving the mystery" that forms the basis of the dynamic sexual tension between men and women. As a result, all the passion goes out of any potential relationship between the two of you.  You’ve engaged her conscious mind – but have failed to affect her limbic, primitive mind where all her lust triggers are hidden.  Guess what...

You’ve just become one of her GIRLFRIENDS! Yikes!

One of the major gripes of passive men is that great looking women always reject them for jerks who mistreat them.  Despite the best efforts of these wonderful, passionless men to adore every girl they meet and raise them high up on a pedestal, the best women always seem to gravitate to this hated town jerk instead.  Since Mr. Bad Ass Jerk fails to grasp the magnitude of his good fortune, he eventually ends up abusing his goddess.  What a tragedy. Blind to the power of her own great beauty, of course, goddess runs around kissing his ass and taking all the crap he can dish out... until he finally dumps her, beats her up or ends up on extended holiday at the local state prison.  If only she could have opened her eyes and seen fit to choose Mr. Passive instead -- her world could have been a paradise of love and happiness.  She just doesn’t get it though. But don’t worry... we still love her – no, adore her – anyway.  We’re nice, after all.

The never-ending saga of the scorned nice guy is a pattern of perceived injustice that begins in high school and trails these losers all around everywhere they go. You yourself might even be in a situation where you’ve befriended one of these great looking girls (who refuse to see you as a man), and you actually spend your vacant hours sympathetically listening to her piss and moan about all the various low life dickbrains she gets involved with.  Typically she ignores your good advice to forget about these assholes and immediately goes back for more punishment anyway.  Then she calls you up and tells you all about it.

Who do you think is the real asshole here?

My prose drips with sarcasm instead of sympathy for you.  Why?  Because if you’re a nice guy you’ve established a residence at the very bottom of the male dominance scale and you deserve everything that you get (or, more precisely, don’t get). Do you know what the male equivalent of the nice guy is?  Fat girls.  Yes that’s right, fat girls. Most men won’t even consider dating them unless they are desperate bottom feeders themselves who’ve long since given up any hope of catching a decent looking girlfriend.  How come?  Because they don’t turn us on sexually.  Therefore we don’t bother with them.  This works the same for both men and women.  We cannot force ourselves to become romantically involved with people who don’t speak to our most primitive sense of lust and desire.  Love is not a conscious act.  It is a primal one