It appears that the female brain has built into it a primitive, deep-seated means of finding a mate who has a high chance of giving her strong, healthy babies... while rejecting those males whose DNA might actually be dangerous to the health and viability of her future offspring. How’s that for complicating matters of seduction?
The curious thing is that there doesn’t seem to be any similar capability among males. We’re programmed primarily to look for the visual signs of healthy child-bearing capability in the women we find attractive... i.e., youthfulness, 0.7 hip-to-waist ratio, large breasts, etc. However, it’s interesting to note that women, too, are programmed just like men to seek out the perfect partner for procreation, it’s just that their sensory apparatus makes their detection methodology different. Since men use vision we can stand back and make all the assessments we need to make remotely from a distance. Women, though, need to get in close and actually get a whiff of a man. Imagine that! This whole thing becomes especially complicated in modern life because clothing and deodorant soaps and colognes can interfere with her olfactory assessment, in effect masking our true genetic nature from her. This is why it might take several adult dating encounters where she can get a sniff of your BO somehow (like right after a workout), before a woman knows for sure if a man has any real hope of becoming her sexual partner.
This creates the possibility that an otherwise friendly girl might go very suddenly cold on you if she gets a sniff of the “real” you on a third date! This whole situation is further confused by the fact that most women probably don’t understand what’s happening to them when it comes to male scenting. At least not on a direct scientific level the way that you now do. They’re just reacting to instinctual urges and puzzling “feelings” about a guy. “I don’t know why I didn’t like him, he was real nice and we were having fun together... there was just something about him I didn’t like after a while. I can’t explain it!” she might lament to her girlfriends later on. And she will be tormented by her crazy feminine frivolity for weeks to come. Too bad.
So what’s the point of telling you all this? Only to make you aware that there are aspects to the game of mate selection that lie completely beyond your control because they are most likely genetically hardwired into us. Especially so with women, who have a much greater biological and sociological stake in the act of reproduction than do men (who only provide the starting fluid, after all...).
What this means is that there is no way to guarantee absolute 100% success with every woman out there, no matter what amazing system for meeting women that you are trying to take advantage of... mine or anyone else’s. The dance of seduction invokes such deeply primordial sensations that it can’t be completely manipulated with clever words and perfect attitudes alone. In other words, you could do everything I show you in this book absolutely perfectly to the letter and you could still get rejected once she catches a good sniff of your DNA and it turns out to be a mismatch!
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